Sensual secrets of the yoni empowering women in the area of sexuality

As a sex educator, therapist and writer, I am an avid reader of books pertaining to human sexuality.  

One of my personal favorites is, “Women’s Anatomy of Arousal” by Sheri Winston.  In her book she talks about a woman’s vulva (vagina) yoni in a way that is empowering, beautiful and inspiring.  As a sex educator and sex toy advocate I enjoy weaving the two together to help women have better sex in their lives.

One of the ways in which a woman can feel more comfortable about her body, masturbation, and sexual intimacy is to love herself all of herself.  This love involves understanding that her yoni or vulva is special, sacred and that she has a choice when and who to share it with. 

This past weekend I did a sex toy education party for some young ladies at Occidental College, who had just done the play Vagina Monologues… I found the experience as a sex therapist rather than just an educator or "sex toy salesperson" to be more of an awaking for young women, to understand that they are in control off their sexuality.  Women through television, culture,  parenting are often taught to be please others, make them happy even at their own expense, when it comes to sex this happens more often than not.

One of my favorite pieces of information to share with women is “The Goddess Guide” which explains to women that their yoni is sacred, and if they don’t want to have sex then they have the right to say no.  The other part of the class was to explain the workings of the vagina itself, when women gets aroused it is more than her vagina getting wet, for her to be ready for intercourse.  In fact if a woman is not physically ready to have intercourse then it can hurt, and not feel comfortable.  The vulva takes time to engorge with blood, become full, wet and the vagina itself to dilate and grow to accommodate a penis.

Educating women is empowering women, but in reality where do they get this type of education from. Sex education class hardly offers this vital information….that is why I promote the sex positive people out there trying to make a different.  Associations like AASECT, SSSS, IPSA, Dr. Patti Britton, Creative Sexuality , Tamar (sex surrogate) and sex counselors like myself Dawn Michael For more information on sex positive associations contact dawnmichael40@yahoo.com

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Couples that see each other all of time compromise their sex lives

In this day and age of technology, where two people work at home, see each other all of the time and have no space…..destroy their sex lives!!! 

We are all animals, when it comes down to true sexuality, seeing your partner all of the time, having no time to miss them or long for them destroys the sexuality in the relationship. 

Marriage and divorce are at an all time high, and it is not just that the economy is bad, it is that couples see each other too much.  Creating distance in a relationship is a good thing, missing your partner, longing for them is healthy. 

When sex is available all of the time, for many couples it can get boring…taking time to be apart and thinking about the other person can add excitement back to the relationship.

If you do work at home together with your partner there are things that you can do to create distance:  Take your computer to a coffee shop several times a week to work….take time to go with friends in the evening…..go on vacations without your partner….move out of the house for awhile (it is less expensive than a divorce) time apart does make the heart grow fonder if the heart is still in love…if it is not then leave, life is to short!  You want to have a great sex life then make it happen…

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Male sexuality, what all women need to know about their man?

 As a sex counselor I help men from around the world with various sexual issues and I have learned from each of my clients something new.   
There is no such thing as a” know it all” in the business of human sexuality.  My male clients talk about sexual fetishes, ways they get turned on or even their basic lack of knowledge  concerning their own body when it comes to sex.   

Men in our society today are not sure what the ideal of masculinity is all about.  How does a man define himself in western society where he is expected to be a man but also have all the emotions of a woman?    

One of the issues is “A man is always interested and ready for sex”.  Men are not always ready for sex, and when pressured it can lead to anxiety, even erectile dysfunction.

“Getting the penis to do it job on command and ready for intercourse”.   “sexual intercourse” and the pressure that it puts on sexual intercourse as the “main focus of the sexual experience.”    This is especially a problem when a man does have a problem with getting an erection, to always be focused on intercourse as the main goal of love making.  One way to avoid this problem is to take it slow allow the build up.  A man can be sexually excited and still have a semi hard penis, or even no erection at all.

Men’s sexual issues are so varied that there is no “normal” way to go about sexual response and it does differ form man to man.  A sexual response is when you receive some kind of sexual stimulation and it can be:  Touch, smell, sight, fantasy, fetish, whatever that erotic charge may be.  The increased volume of blood is pumped into various parts of the body including, the penis, the lips, earlobes, and breast.

 As a man ages the blood flow is not as fast and therefor the sexual response is not as fast.  Many men around the age of sixty have the repeated question of, “if their penis is not working the same or is slower to rise”.  The reason is because of the blood flow to the body is slower.   Male sexuality is three dimensional and unlocking the secrets of your man’s own unique sexual response will make for better; love making.

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