There are a growing number of men that have sexual problems,
from not being able to maintain an erection, rapid ejaculation, and areas of performance
anxiety. Some are health related but
most are mental.
The basic biological function
of the penis is to have an erection long enough to penetrate, ejaculate and procreate
that is the easy part. Most sexual problems are not biological but
psychological concerning sexual emotions, intelligence and performance of the
sexual act rather than just the function of the orgasm. As a man matures this becomes the case even
more, where once a quick race to orgasm was the most important function, now it
is the ability to be a good lover and the sexual experience itself.
As men age the time it takes to get an erection and maintain
an erection can become a problem and this is a twofold situation. As a man ages the blood takes longer to fill
the penis, the other aspect is the anxiety that sets in with some men as not
being able to maintain an erection or it taking so much longer to get fully
erect. Stress is the biggest killer of a
good erection. The testosterone drops in
men as they age, so the thoughts that once were overrun by the animal instinct
to just have sex, now gets over ridden with the anxiety and stress from day to
day living. Men have more sexual issues
than women because they are not able to hide a flaccid penis, or one that ejaculates
quickly, or a penis that never orgasms. Everything
is out in the open when it comes to male sexual problems.
More men than women have fetishes and sexual patterns that
they have developed over the years. One
pattern that can create a problem is masturbation for a period of years without
a partner done the same way overtime. Another
issue is watching porn to get off instead of using their imagination or even
some nude magazines. Excessive porn can increase
desensitation and when a man does get into a relationship with a woman trying
to stop the pattern of watching porn can become a real issue.
How to fix the male sexual problems:
There are a few recommendations that can help. One of the best ways to help maintain an
erection and to break the sexual pattern that may develop is to masturbate
differently. A simple trick is to switch
hands while masturbating; this will change the sensation and hopefully over
time make it so that the erection stays longer.
Another helpful hint is to decrease the porn and use other sexual
stimulation like magazines, books and imagination to masturbate to. When getting into a sexual relationship with
a woman, learn to communicate about sex; take it slow so that the anxiety does
not take over. For more advanced sexual
issues contact a sex counselor in the field of clinical sexology.
