Having sex with a man that is not able to maintain an erection

A common question that men ask me in my practice as a clinical sexologist is “I lost my erection during sex is that a psychological or health related issue”.  The answer is a little more complicated than that because age plays a factor in that equation as well.  A man in his early twenties, thirties and into his forties, who has never really experienced problems with getting an erection, may find this to slowly be a problem as he ages.  Once this happens as a man ages, he may begin to worry about it, creating preformance anxiety. 

Most problems with maintaining erections are psychological, but can be based in a medical or physical place to start with.  As men age with the stress of the economy, kids, possible divorce, health issues,dating again, it can have a direct affect on his libido and performance.  He may be too exhausted, fatigued or anxious to get fully aroused or have his penis function on command.  This is all normal and for the most part it will pass, but what becomes the underling problem for some men is the anxiety surrounding it, which then leads into the performance problem.  This then leads the man to go to the doctor for a prescription for Viagra.

The Viagra can work with some men to boost their confidence enough over time, to get over the performance anxiety but with other men it does not.  Prolonged problems with erections are best to be dealt with by a trained professional in the field of clinical sexology (sex therapy).  The reason why a sex therapist is the best form of help is that they have a vast knowledge of sexual health related information, treatment solutions, proven techniques and trining in the area of human sexuality from a psychologicall standpoint.  There are other methods beside Viagra to help with erection problems.  Other methods include: Penis injunction  penis pump, natural pills, creams and simple techniques to get blood to the penis.  If the man is with a partner, she can use the techniques and help get his erection back in full swing.  Once he builds his confidence back up and understands all of his options then if it does lose his erection from time to time he will know what to do.  The perform anxiety will lesson and then he can enjoy a healthy sex life.