Monday, February 28, 2011

Keeping Secrets from Your Spouse and Not Showing Your True Self

i will always keep secrets.Image by .donata via Flickr
When two people get married they think about all of the wonderful aspects of marriage and what type of future they may have with their new spouse. A person will put their best efforts forward, looking to their new spouse as their best friend, lover and life partner.

What happens when a person is not showing their new spouse who their real true self is? Often times people will hold back parts about their life that they may be embarrassed about or have a hidden secret, that they feel their spouse may never accept. This can create a problem when two people do not fully know each other and accept each other for who they are before they get married.
Often time's two people will marry and not be completely honest with one another, hoping that along the way they can slowly reveal themselves to their spouse and hope to be accepted or they may continue to keep their true self hidden and never really show who they are.

All too often people marry and may not even be completely honest with themselves about what problems they may be having, holding back the truth, hoping that some how it will just go away. All of these underling secrets can put an emotional wall between two people and not allow the relationship to properly develop and grow. Many times as they say "the truth will set you free" and this applies to marriage as well.

Holding on to secrets and not showing parts about oneself to a spouse before marriage is not being honest. The other person needs to make a decision about who they want to spend the rest of their life with and that is what love is all about. The best part about a healthy marriage is that the people in the marriage accept each other for who they are, for better, for worse and everything else in between.
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